Techniques

Locating the g spot. This is THE question. I mean, how can you give pleasure to your partners g-spot, unless you know where the g spot is?

My advice would be to first get clear on where your partners g spot is. Check out our finding the g spot exercise and our pages on g spot pictures and g spot videos.

Probably my best advice is to have a sense of fun and exploration around the g-spot. Its good to remember that locating the g spot is not the real goal. The real goal is to have a great relationship with your partner, and to be an extraordinary lover.

Having a sense of play, and giving and receiving feedback as you work on locating the g spot are probably your best tools to achieve your goal (and also to find the g spot!)

I also recommend you join our free e-course. Its full of our favorite tips, techniques and exercises and is an excellent resource.

Have some extra time on your hands? Learn how to work the g-spot into your self-play with g spot masturbation.Everybody loves a little action by themselves sometimes – and masturbation is our birthright!

Its definately nothing to be ashamed of, or worry about. In fact, its a great way to learn and experiment with new techniques.

The idea behind g spot masturbation is to work your g spot into your self-play. So rather than just have a quick clitoral orgasm, you can have a deeper, longer, and more full bodied orgasm (that might even have you ejaculate!).

Unfortunately, it can be hard to stimulate your g-spot by yourself. It is possible, but you have to squat or kneel –neither of which is that comfortable.

So, its best if you have help. Because this is a page on g spot masturbation we’re going to assume that helper is not your boyfriend! : ) Probably the best g spot masturbation toy we’ve found is the cyrstal wand. The crystal wand is made out of a hard material, lucite, which helps you get a firm, sustained pressure. Its curved shape has it hit your g spot easily – and makes it easy to use by yourself.

Because of its non-porous material, and its friendly, slim design, you can also use the crystal wand to stimulate your g spot through your anus (oh yeah!)

As you masturbate, its best to get yourself super hot and bothered. My girlfriends favorite way to do this when she’s in a hurry is with an Acuvibe.

I know it looks like a microphone from a kid’s playhouse – but this vibrator (originally intended for the back and neck ??!) makes my girlfriend orgasm in 2 – 3 minutes every time.

Its a trusted favorite when we want to get hot, super quick to either do g spot play, or for a quickie.

In this instance, since we’re focusing on g spot masturbation, you’d get yourself hot, either using your normal techniques, or an acuvibe. and then introduce the crystal wand, or your choice of a g spot toy.

(its unlikely you could juggle the acuvibe AND the cyrstal wand at the same time … but … i’ve been proven wrong before!)

Anyhow, as you masturbate, involve your g-spot. See what feels good – intensity, pressure, movement, up and down, back and forth, in and out, etc. See if what you like changes as you get closer to orgasm.

Its possible you’ll experience a blended orgasm from g spot masturbation. That’s where when you orgasm, sensations come not just from the clitoris but also from inside. This often gives longer, stronger sensations that are more spread-out.

Its also possible you’ll ejaculate (or just feel like peeing). We’ll talk more about that in our section on female ejaculation.

When you talk about g spot female ejaculation, it really just means stimulating the g spot to help you ejaculate.

As you get aroused, and then stimulate the g-spot it gets engorged and swollen with fluid, and this sets in motion both g spot orgasms and g spot female ejaculation.

A woman can experience female ejaculation because of stimulation of the clitoris, or just the g-spot, or combination of both. The gspot is the female prostate – it is the organ (cluster of glands) that creates female ejaculate fluid.

One night by myself in college, I tried experimenting with what would happen if I continued touching my clit after orgasm – and I ejaculated. Now, I’ve added in stimulation of my g spot, and I’m experiencing g spot female ejaculation! I still ejaculate like I did before, but the pleasure and the intensity are more, as my g spot has amped things up

At the time I thought I had across something unusual or rare, but I now find it mind-blowing to know that all women have the anatomic ability to ejaculate. In fact, women are meant to ejaculate as part of the process of becoming aroused and releasing sexual energy as orgasm.

Almost none of us women ejaculate regularly, for a few different reasons: We might not because we don’t even know we can, or maybe because we need to have stronger pelvic (PC) muscles, or it might be that we have a fear of letting go and gushing large amounts of liquid all over the bed or our partner!

What should you expect in terms of amount? Anywhere from a couple teaspoons to more than a cup! Its different between different women, as well as at different times.

Lately I’ve taken to putting down a sex sheet. a deliciously velvety throw blanket that includes a water-proof lining inside. It soaks up anything (massage oil, lube, ejaculate, you name it!)

Of course, there is no need or pressure to ejaculate as part of orgasm, but it is nice to know that it is a woman’s birthright, a form of cathartic release and intense sensual pleasure, not just a wacky trick owned by porn stars.

I can assure you, if you choose to start exploring gspot female ejaculation, you are in for an amazing, intensely pleasurable ride.

On the previous page (here) and see some of the hottest ejaculation clips on the net

And, of course, check out these two sections: Female G Spot 101 or G Spot Stimulation.

I also recommend you join our free e-course. It has all our favorite tips, techniques, and exercises about the g spot and female ejaculation.

So, if you’re anything like most people, you’ve heard about the female g spot, but you don’t know too much about it.

This section of our website is designed especially for you. Its designed to make it as easy as possible to locate and find your g spot and make good use of it !

The first step is to become super comfortable in finding your (or your partner’s) g spot. If you can believe it, some doctor’s still debate whether it exists. But, I can tell you the “experts” are wrong.

The female g spot does exist! I’ve seen, first hand, it’s delicious fruits: intense whole body orgasms, pulses and waves of ecstatic pleasure for minutes at a time and even amazing flows of amrita (also known as female ejaculation).

Below, we’re going to introduce you to alot of female g spot resources: pictures, video’s, guided exercices, and more.

It can be very hard to find clear, easy to understand, practical information in a well written book. This ebook covers everything and is by far one of our favorite sources. And, believe me, we’ve returned ALOT of inferior ebooks and materials (believe me, the online marketers hate us! 🙂

Now, on to everything you need to know about the g-spot. The first step is to understand where the female g spot is and what it is. Basically, its a small gland that sits inside the front wall of your vagina, about 2 inches in, on top of your pelvic bone.

For some pictures and help in finding it, check out our page of female g spot pictures. If you’d prefer to see things “in action”, check out some of our favorite g spot videos.

Besides pictures and videos, I also want to give you some hands on tools for your own exploration as well. Here is a finding the g spot exercise that my girlfriend and I have created for you to use with your partner.

If you’re looking to experiment with a variety of g spot sex techniques, you’ve come to the right place. We’ll teach you everything you need to know!

Before we get started with all the details, I want to say the real key to g spot sex is actually not about the g-spot at all. Often this can get lost in our focus on specific sex techniques. Amazing sex really starts with your mind, and your emotions.

The key having amazing g spot orgasms during sex is to focus on being present with your partner. In the beginning, its often best if you agree not to have orgasms. Instead, have fun, enjoy a sense of play – treat it like an adventure. Rather than focus on orgasm during g spot sex, focus on creating connection, intimacy, and deep connection.

Longer term, this focus on sacred sex and connection with your partner is the real key to g spot sex and full-body orgasm. (Its funny when you think about it – that agreeing not to orgasm often actually has you have the hottest sex : )

Now back to g spot sex techniques. One of the first things to know is that subtlety really makes all the difference. Remember, in g spot sex you’re focusing on hitting a small spot or area. Thus, small subtle distinctions make all the difference.

So, as you experiment with different positions, here are some subtle techniques to try during g spot sex:
Step one: Arousal

Use your favorite techniques to get each other hot. Its important that you be aroused, and your g-spot engorged
Step two: Positioning

Choose one of your favorite g spot positions. Because properly stimulating the g-spot can often take a good amount of time, make sure you are both super comfortable. Use a variety of pillows or blankets to prop things up. Its ok to take time to get everything set.

Step three: Thrusting Styles

Have your partner try some of these thrusting styles:

short strokes: have his penis come in only an inch or two and then withdraw just to the edge of your vagina, and then repeat. Try to have this be stimulating the edges of your g spot area.

direct pressure: have his penis come all the way in until its pressed up against your g-spot. (help your partner find the best angle and depth to do this). Then have him sorta rock in place, so that he keeps pressure on your gspot but it varies slightly

hard and fast: have your partner thrust hard and fast into you – but after 9 -15 strokes have him come out and pause for a count or two. Then repeat. There are many variations of this – thrust for 15, pause for 1, thrust for 14, pause for 1, thrust for 13, pause for 1, etc. Some people say that this combination of hard, fast, and deep thrusting with a pause or two outside will help you ejaculate.

hip motion: while your partner is thrusting, have him move his hips – side to side, as well as back and forward. (I’ve been taking pilates for the last year just to have more flexibility in my hips … you would never believe that a slight extra tilt upward in my pelvis and hips would make a difference – but it does!)

With all of these thrusting techniques, its important for you and your partner to maintain heart connection and consciousness. That’s a key to all of these g spot sex techniques.
Step Four: Give and Receive Feedback

During g spot sex its important that you constantly be giving and receiving feedback. Often, we’re afraid to make noise in sex, much less to make requests. Partly, that’s why I recommend you agree not to have an orgasm. This way, its clearer that you’re creating a sex space for play and exploration.

One of the key’s to giving feedback is to focus it in the positive. Rather than sharply saying “I don’t like that”, emphasize what you do like. Let your partner know when you really like something he’s doing. Trust me – guys like it when you give direction. And, don’t worry – you won’t be directly all the time. This is really about learning together.

Also, guys, ask your partner when you’re not clear. Ask her what she likes. Its usually best if your questions give her an option – “Do you like it more like this, or like this?” “Do you prefer when its harder, like this, or softer like this?”.

Even if it feels weird in the beginning, learning to give and receive feedback is key to having great g spot sex (and sex in general!)

What exactly is g spot orgasm? As you might have guessed, there are many types of orgasm, each with its own flavor and characteristics. G-spot orgasms are titanic, full-bodied, and often last much, much longer and spread throughout the body.

The gspot stores an immense amount of sexual, creative energy. It also stores any sexual or emotional hurts – so as you use this g spot orgasm exercise, don’t be surprised if emotions, tears, or laughter come up. It is natural, and it is a release of those stored emotions, making your sexual, creative energy more available to you.

A word about emotional intimacy– women need it in order to feel open sexually or even want sex; and without it many of us have trouble being aroused or having orgasms, let alone a g spot orgasm.

Emotions are usually not the most comfortable realm for men, but exploring the gspot is an amazing way to bring you closer and more emotionally intimate with your partner. It may take several times of trying this g spot orgasm exercise for your partner to feel open and comfortable enough to come.

G Spot Orgasm Exercise:

1. Prepare an inviting, sexy space for your partner and invite her into it. Rather than telling her the point of this exercise is to get her to orgasm (which can feel pressured), just take a gentle lead tell her you would like to explore and experience her fully.

2. Foreplay is the most important element here, and for many women foreplay is emotional. Show her and tell her what you appreciate about her, her body, her qualities, wine and dine her, give her a gift. A little heart-felt appreciation goes a long, long way.

3. However, emotional foreplay is just setting the stage for arousing her body. Light kisses, kissing her neck, caresses over her body and erogenous zones – whatever you know she enjoys and turns her on. Keep at this longer that you would normally. Resist the temptation to touch her clitoris or pussy until later.

4. Take the teasing to the next level. As you tease and arouse her, keep resuming eye-contact with your lover. By avoiding the usual step of heading straight for her pussy, you will be creating a strong bond of trust and openness, and will be encouraging her to open up, get really hot, and “ask for” what is coming, without holding back.

5. You will begin to notice signs in her body, like her arching lower back, movement in her hips, or moaning – these are the signs to GO AHEAD. However, don’t break your connection with her through eye contact.

6. At this point, she will probably be so turned on she will be physically or verbally “asking” for you to touch her pussy. Gently go ahead, lingering on the pubic hair, the lips of the vagina, the whole zone. Massage, stroke, touch and stimulate this area. You can pay some attention to her clitoris, but not too much, since the point of this is to locate and stimulate the g spot.

7. Gently dip one finger, or maybe two inside her, but only an inch or two at first. Resist the urge to plunge in deeply – you are exploring and locating her G-Spot. Feel around on the front wall of the vagina – you are feeling for a ridged spot, about the size of a dime or quarter, that feels distinct from the rest of the area, kind of like the roof of your mouth. It could also feel like a small bean or a nipple.

8. Once you have found her g-spot, begin rubbing gently, using one finger or two, depending on what feels best to your partner. Try moving your finger in a “come here” motion, side to side like windshield wipers, up and down or in a circle. Don’t worry if you don’t get immediate reaction, keep trying different directions, speeds and movements of your finger, and ask your partner to be vocal about what feels best. You will probably notice the g-spot swelling or getting a “watery” feel to it.

9. As you notice her getting more and more aroused, be aware this might be totally new for your partner, uncharted territory. Keep your eye connection with her, appreciate her, tell her how beautiful she is, how hot she is making you. The muscles of her vagina will begin to contract, she may become very, very wet. She may even ejaculate!

10. Keep your finger moving, no matter how much she may writhe, thrash around, scream and moan, to provide a steadiness as her orgasm rises and bubbles over. Keep your finger moving gently until her orgasm subsides.

Afterwards: you may notice her silent and still for a while – this is normal after such intensity. Take some time to share the experience – what it was like for both of you. In the future, it will be easier to access and experience g spot orgasm.

In g spot massage you use a finger or a sex toy, to stimulate and apply pressure to the g spot, in order to remove the blocks to erotic pleasure – feelings of numbness, pain or stored sexual hurts – and replace them with intensely pleasurable, erotic sensations.

G spot massage is a lot like a massage for the body – where you use varied strokes and pressures to gently work out kinks, ease away knots and tense spots – but is centered on one particular part of the body – the g-spot.

The gspot stores an immense amount of sexual, creative energy. It also stores any sexual or emotional hurts– so as you use the g spot massage exercise below, don’t be surprised if emotions, tears, or laughter come up. This is natural, and it is a form of healing – a release of those stored emotions, making your sexual, creative energy more available to you.

Often, g spot massage is referred to as Yoni Healing – “yoni” meaning female genitals – and for good reason. The g spot massage exercise below is designed to be healing on many levels:

G spot massage can melt resistances stored in the body; make you more available for connected sex and unparalleled relationships; give you access to more sexual self-expression, personal power and creativity; offer increased sensation and responsiveness in sex, along with decreased feelings of vulnerability and stronger feelings of love.

It also allows you to open to the possibility of extended, multiple, full-bodied orgasms, often accompanied by female ejaculation.

Before you get started, a few words about g spot massage:

Maintain a feeling of playfulness, lightness and fun, while staying present and connected. Encourage your woman to be vocal about what she is experiencing and what she wants.

Make sure you tell her what you are about to do before you do it. No sudden movements or surprises. This is your woman’s most precious area, so proceeding slowly, with care and reverence is essential.

With g spot massage, your aim is to awaken your woman’s sexual juiciness, but not necessarily to bring her to orgasm – though it’s ok if she does.

G Spot Massage Exercise

You can initially do this g spot massage exercise by using your fingers to stimulate your partner’s g-spot.

Plan to set aside about an hour for this g spot massage exercise.

1. Take some time before you begin to prepare the space you’ll be doing g spot massage in – making it warm, inviting and special, a place your woman would feel welcomed into.

2. Start with a full body massage. You may want to help your woman out of her clothes and have her lie on her front to start. As you are caressing the back of her body, focus on strokes and pressures that feel good to her – when it doubt ask – how’s the pressure? lighter? harder?

3. After about 10 minutes, ask her to turn over, and continue the massage on her front. When it feels right, ask her if it is ok to massage her more intimately – and you can begin to include touching her genital area, including the inner and outer lips of her vagina. Feel free to use lots of lube and try long slow strokes as well as circular ones, paying attention to which ones feel best to your partner.

4. When your woman is nice and aroused, tell her you are going to put a finger inside, and begin to explore gently. With your inside finger, locate her gspot, about 2 inches in, along the front wall of her vagina. A nice touch is to press the palm of your other hand gently on her pubic mound, as this can be very grounding for her.

5. Take some time to explore her g spot, noting size, shape and texture, as well as any tight or painful spots. Remember, stay connected, be gentle, and keep checking in with your woman.

6. You can picture the g-spot as a clock, and to spend some time at each point of the clock, seeing where feels best, where might be numb or painful, or might cause any emotion to come up. When you get on a hot spot, hold and press gently, ask partner to describe feeling – any image or emotion coming up. Be patient, let the energy come up and discharge, and let your partner know you are there and that she is doing great.

7. As you continue on with the other clock positions, focus on the goal of greater pleasure (like with a massage), rather than dwelling entirely on the painful or numb places. You may also want to explore other areas, not just the opening of the vagina and the gspot, but deeper into the vagina and the area around the cervix and the cervix itself. Enjoy this sacred, inner part of your woman.

8. Consider ending your g spot massage session on a high note, rather than with over-stimulation. Let your woman know you are going to withdraw your finger, and cover the mound of her vagina with your hand, sealing the end of the process. Consider hugging, spooning, cuddling with her – whatever your woman wants and would feel the best.

As an afternote, it may take a few sessions of g spot massage for much emotion to come up, but in the meantime you will be getting familiar with your partner’s yoni and creating greater comfort, connection and trust between you.

This section is designed to teach you some advanced g spot stimulation techniques. Get ready to let your wild, inner sex-diva out to play!

A g spot stimulation technique we recommend you try is g spot massage.It is said doing g-spot massage can help relieve stored sexual hurts, trauma’s and bad experiences. We’ve created a simple, one-hour exercise to do with your partner.

If you arefeeling adventurous, check our pages on g spot sex and g spot positions . They are guaranteed toamp up your lovemaking, and leave you purringly contented.

Of course, sometimes you just feel like getting it on by yourself. (Like when you are working hard at the computer in your home office!: )

To help you hone your g spot stimulation skills, we recommend you regularly enjoy g spot masturbation. (We promise you will not grow hairy palms, and we will not tell your mom!)

If you somehow still have energy after all that, check out our section on g spot toys. We have experimented with most of the toys out there, and these are our absolute favorite toys for making g spot stimulation easy.

Of course, we all want sacred sex, and intimate orgasms with our partners. In fact, that’s why we have put so much energy into this site – to help you achieve a more deep, intimate connection with your partner.

That said, sometimes, when you are in the mood, you just can not beat having some fun, sexy toys on hand. We hope you enjoy our favorite g spot toys as much as we do.

One last note …

If you really want to have a fun evening, buy a couple of these g spot toys, and don’t tell your partner. Then, invite her out for a sexy date, and at the beginning of it say “I have got a surprise for you“.

Do not tell her what the surprise is, now matter what.

Then, when you get home, give her a cocktail, and excuse yourself. Set up your bedroom (candles, incense, etc.) and lay out some of your new toys. Trust me – you will have a memorable night!